How a Mother Going Through Peri-menopause and a Daughter Going Through Puberty Can Help Each Other

This can be one of the most emotionally intense and transformative times in a

mother–daughter relationship — but also one of the most powerful, if approached with

empathy and intention.

Shared Hormonal Chaos, Different Stories

Both peri-menopause and puberty involve hormonal rollercoasters, mood swings, body

changes, identity shifts, and a renegotiation of relationships. You’re both figuring things out

— just from different positions on life’s spiral.

1. Normalise the Conversation

Be open about what you’re going through — not in a burdensome way, but in a real way.

Encourage honesty and mutual understanding.

2. Build Compassion Through Shared Language

Create phrases like “Is this hormon

es or real feelings?” or “Do you need space or support

right now?” to reduce tension and foster emotional awareness.

3. Make Space for Each Other’s Experience

Respect each other’s journeys. Acknowledge that you are both navigating big changes

and need patience and empathy.

4. Create Rituals of Care

Small routines like walks, tea chats, or journaling create stability and connection during

emotional ups and downs.

5. Set Boundaries Without Guilt

Model healthy boundaries and let each other know that needing space is okay. Love and

space can coexist.

6. Seek Outside Support (and Normalize It)

Encourage therapy, books, or girls’ groups. Show that reaching out for help is a sign of

strength, not weakness.

7. Embrace the Mess — It’s Sacred

These life stages are messy and emotional but deeply meaningful. Treat them as rites of

passage and give each other grace.

Practical Idea to Try

Create a shared journal. Write alternate day reflections to build mutual understanding and

emotional connection.

Final Thought

This is not just about surviving change — it’s about growing through it, together.